A lot of how we form relationships is from learned behavior. Whether intentionally or not we are often influenced by the company we keep “bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Choosing your friends wisely isn’t only beneficial for us, it’s important for both members of the party. After all, time is currency and we get to choose how to spend it.
Having healthy role models in our lives is a measure to put in place to bring wise counsel “surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.” Proverbs 24:6.
I have the privilege of having a number of seasoned ministers in my life. They nearly always share a perspective with me that may have taken me years to learn on my own, wandering through the desert.
Spending time with people twice our age might not be possible for all of us though at that point it could be time to start investing in people half our age.
Recently my younger brother came to visit me in Long Beach and I had the honor of spending three weeks pouring into him. He chose to spend his time with me, bless him. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” Proverbs 27:17.
I had a glimpse of the responsibilities of fatherhood as my brother put his trust in me to care for and guide him through his first visit to what is the melting pot of the southern California culture.
We walked in so much favor during those three weeks getting to experience beautiful beaches, snowboarding, the chaos of LA and meal portion sizes at restaurants that could feed a family of four in the UK.
Spending every hour of everyday together surely deepened our relationship and although my brother isn’t currently walking with God he had a full flavor of the spiritual Disneyland that we are exposed to here.
The relationship I desire to cultivate above all is my connection with Jesus, without being in his presence everything else is worthless. “We love because he first loved us” 1 John 4:19.
The love I pursue in my relationships is only possible because he first loved me. As my elders pour into me I aim to be like a sponge, absorbing and retaining the love and wisdom they provide for me because one day I hope to have the responsibilities that they have and look to love others the way they love me.
- Ben Biscoe, RLB Intern